{"id":3346,"date":"2023-03-04T00:53:28","date_gmt":"2023-03-03T22:53:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tremhost.com\/blog\/?p=3346"},"modified":"2023-03-06T15:16:47","modified_gmt":"2023-03-06T13:16:47","slug":"no-bullshit-way-to-win-in-your-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tremhost.com\/blog\/no-bullshit-way-to-win-in-your-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"No Bullshit Way to Win in your Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you want to know how to win in your marriage, stop trying to bullshit each other. It doesn\u2019t work, and it won\u2019t make your marriage any better. Instead, focus on being real with each other and being open about what\u2019s going on in your relationship. When you can be honest about everything that\u2019s happening between the two of you\u2014the good, the bad, and the ugly\u2014you\u2019ll start having a deeper connection with each other than ever before. That\u2019s when winning happens!<\/p>\n

Negativity is the enemy of marriage<\/h2>\n

Negativity is the enemy of marriage. When you get married, you\u2019re committing to be with your partner for the rest of your life\u2013and that\u2019s a long time! You want to be happy and positive every day, not just when things are going well but also when they\u2019re not. If you\u2019re negative all the time or even most times, then it will wear on both of your spirits over time.<\/p>\n

Negativity is contagious: if one person starts being negative, it can spread like wildfire throughout a household (or office). So when one spouse gets into this pattern of thinking\/speaking\/acting negatively about everything around him\/herself or others in general terms rather than specific incidents (e.g., \u201cI hate my job!\u201d vs., \u201cI hate what happened today at work\u201d), then there needs to be some intervention from outside sources such as friends\/family members who love them enough not only say something but also listen carefully enough so that they hear what\u2019s being said instead of just tuning out due simply because they don\u2019t know how else handle such situations themselves either out loud yet still privately inside their own heads.\u201d<\/p>\n

You need to be able to talk about sex<\/h2>\n

Sex is important.<\/p>\n

Talking about sex without being defensive or judgmental is essential to your marriage, because it\u2019s a way of communicating your needs, wants and desires in a non-threatening way. You want your partner to know what you like and dislike so that they can provide the best experience possible for both of you sexually.<\/p>\n

When talking about sex with one another, try not to use phrases like \u201cI feel like\u2026\u201d or \u201cMy mom told me that\u2026\u201d Instead say something along the lines of: \u201cWhen we do X together I feel Y.\u201d This makes it easier for both parties involved in an intimate conversation because there\u2019s no room left behind for misinterpretation or confusion on either side; they know exactly where each other stands and how they feel about it (or don\u2019t feel).<\/p>\n

You will fight with each other<\/h2>\n

You will fight with each other.<\/p>\n

You need to fight with each other.<\/p>\n

Fighting is a good thing, because it means you care about each other and want to get along better. You should keep fighting until there is no more fighting left in you and your spouse respectively, because that\u2019s when things start getting really good!<\/p>\n

There are no rules<\/h2>\n

There are no rules.<\/p>\n

There is no right way to be married, and there\u2019s also no wrong way. Marriage isn\u2019t a game; it\u2019s not a competition, and it certainly isn\u2019t about being right all the time. The best advice I can give you is this: Don\u2019t try so hard!<\/p>\n

If you want to win in your marriage, don\u2019t bullshit each other.<\/h2>\n

If you want to win in your marriage, don\u2019t bullshit each other.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s it. That\u2019s all there is to it. If you want your marriage to work and thrive, here are some things for you two not to do:<\/p>\n