{"id":1885,"date":"2022-10-03T14:49:35","date_gmt":"2022-10-03T12:49:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.tremhost.com\/blog\/?p=1885"},"modified":"2022-10-03T14:49:35","modified_gmt":"2022-10-03T12:49:35","slug":"what-seemingly-nice-behavior-is-actually-toxic-behavior","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tremhost.com\/blog\/what-seemingly-nice-behavior-is-actually-toxic-behavior\/","title":{"rendered":"What seemingly nice behavior is actually toxic behavior?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"bsf_rt_marker\"><\/div><div class=\"q-box qu-mb--small\">\n<div class=\"q-text qu-dynamicFontSize--regular qu-fontWeight--bold qu-color--gray_dark_dim qu-passColorToLinks qu-lineHeight--regular qu-wordBreak--break-word\">\n<div class=\"q-click-wrapper qu-display--block qu-tapHighlight--white qu-cursor--pointer qu-hover--textDecoration--underline ClickWrapper___StyledClickWrapperBox-zoqi4f-0 iyYUZT\" tabindex=\"0\">\n<div class=\"q-flex qu-flexDirection--row\">\n<div class=\"q-inline qu-flexWrap--wrap\">\n<div class=\"q-text puppeteer_test_question_title\"><span class=\"q-box qu-userSelect--text\">What seemingly nice behavior is actually toxic behavior?<\/span><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"q-text\">\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">There\u2019s a certain type of person who likes to give gifts.<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">They will buy\/give you nice things without asking. Offer to do things for you or just do them without you accepting. You will think they are really nice people.. until the real person unravels.<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">You know what the gifts really are?<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">Collateral.<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">I\u2019ve come across this a few times in my life, from both male and female culprits. I won\u2019t try to put a label on this type of person, sociopath, maybe? All I know that it\u2019s a very clever trick and very easy to fall victim to.<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">The gifts are like a carrot on a stick, they draw the person in. Gives a nice impression.<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">But\u2026<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">The gifts are just a way for the person to sink their claws in.<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">Now they have chips to use against you if they ever need it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">They WILL start asking for favours and such in return, because remember that time they\u2019ve done all those nice things for you?<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">They WILL use you at any opportunity, they now have something over you.<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">They do not like it if you object to doing what they want. They will make you feel like you\u2019re a terrible person.<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">Of course, you can\u2019t go back in time now, and untake or undo all of their favours that were inadvertently forced apon you.<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">Moral of the story here?<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">Some people do not give gifts to be nice or to make people happy.<\/p>\n<p class=\"q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start\">Sometimes there can be an ulterior motive lurking, and will be used against you at a later date.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What seemingly nice behavior is actually toxic behavior? There\u2019s a certain type of person who likes to give gifts. They will buy\/give you nice things without asking. Offer to do things for you or just do them without you accepting. You will think they are really nice people.. until the real person unravels. 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