There’s a certain type of person who likes to give gifts.

They will buy/give you nice things without asking. Offer to do things for you or just do them without you accepting. You will think they are really nice people.. until the real person unravels.

You know what the gifts really are?

Collateral.

I’ve come across this a few times in my life, from both male and female culprits. I won’t try to put a label on this type of person, sociopath, maybe? All I know that it’s a very clever trick and very easy to fall victim to.

The gifts are like a carrot on a stick, they draw the person in. Gives a nice impression.

But…

The gifts are just a way for the person to sink their claws in.

Now they have chips to use against you if they ever need it.

They WILL start asking for favours and such in return, because remember that time they’ve done all those nice things for you?

They WILL use you at any opportunity, they now have something over you.

They do not like it if you object to doing what they want. They will make you feel like you’re a terrible person.

Of course, you can’t go back in time now, and untake or undo all of their favours that were inadvertently forced apon you.

Moral of the story here?

Some people do not give gifts to be nice or to make people happy.

Sometimes there can be an ulterior motive lurking, and will be used against you at a later date.